I know it’s early July, but I now have time to sit down and tell ya’ll my summer goals. The biggest thing I’ve learned about myself over the years is: I’m very goal-oriented. I find great satisfaction in setting goals and knocking them off one by one or all at once (don’t recommend the all at once method). So, I’ve taken the time to make a list of 10 things I wanted to do, work-on, or change this summer.
10. Try something new. Although, I feel that I am very outgoing I have a tendency to only stick with what I know. I do this with my friends, family, school, job, etc. Once I get in a routine or groove I do not want to deviate from the path I have created for myself. I can admit that has hindered my abilities and blessings because seven times out ten I’ll pick comfort. And, I’m ready to break that endless cycle. Therefore, I have to be willing to try something new whether its meeting new people, trying new jobs, or overall becoming more adventurous. I’m all about growth and continuously evolving !
9. Mend friendships. I have never been the clingy friend. I do not feel that I need to talk to, text, facetime, or snapchat all day everyday for us to be friends. However, I have a tendency to accidentally go ghost on my friends. If you aren’t a frequent visitor to my apartment I have difficulty remembering to reach out and check on my friends. Don’t get me wrong it’s not that I don’t love them or I wouldn’t give them my last I just feel I have quite a bit going. So much that they end up on the back burner. And, I never want my friends to feel that I have placed them on the back burner of my life. My friends are important to me and I want them to know that. So, I vowed this summer I would do better even if it’s just a quick text to check on them because you never know who needs some love or just want to hear a familiar voice.
8. Pass my certification. I can’t really speak on this goal too much. I do not like to dwell on things that are a work in progress. Just know I’m working hard and cannot wait to share the blessing raining on my life. (Side note: Never reveal your plans too early. You don’t want people speaking bad energy over what’s meant for you.)
7. Eat Better. I know I am an athlete and it would be safe to assume I eat, sleep, breathe health BUT I am human. I love my Popeyes chicken, Thin Golden Oreos, Cherry Twizzlers, and there’s a few more (but if my coaches ask I eat carrots and peanut butter). Prior to college, I ate a very clean 3000 calorie diet which consisted of 6 meals and 3 snacks a day. I was 135 lbs of muscle. Living on a college campus I adapted to eating fewer meals and running on vanilla lattes. At the end of this semester, I weighed 121 lbs with a little muscle definition. My body still looked somewhat athletic but nowhere near how I looked 3 years ago. As I approach my last collegiate season, I promised I would get myself together. I’m cutting back on junk food, fast fried food, and lattes. I try to eat more home cooked meals, healthier fast food options (sandwiches, oatmeal, etc.), and instead of lattes grab an Earl grey tea with honey. I’ll keep ya’ll updated on this progress!
6. Spend time with my family. I’m a workaholic and I wholeheartedly get it from my parents. Both of my parents worked hard and tirelessly to ensure my sister and I had a life of opportunity with no bounds. Therefore, knowing how hard they worked I feel the best way to show them they raised a real hustler is to show them I’m willing to work for everything. This summer I’m working two jobs not because I need the money but more so to have “just in case”. However, this hustler mentally often has me choosing dollar signs over quality time and that’s not fair to my family. They only see me during the summer so whenever there’s down time or a day I can take off – I do. We have family movie days/nights at home, at the movie theater, we have family discussions, and are currently planning a family vacation. Family is very important to me and they honestly mean the world to me !
5. Travel. If you know me you know I am a spur of the moment person. I like to get up and go. I have had the opportunity to travel up and down the east coast and all the southern states plus Oregon (my sister attends college at Oregon State so I had to see for myself); but, I want to see what all the states have to offer. I want to see what the world has to offer. I’m genuinely fascinated with other people’s cultures and beliefs because they are different than mine. Hopefully, before the summer, is over I’ll have my passport so I can see all that there is to be seen !
4. Save Money. I know people say money can’t buy you happiness but it comes close. Having money brings me a sense of security and freedom. Security that if anything happened I do not have to call anyone for help. I can handle it myself because I managed my money properly. The freedom that comes with being able to do what I want, how I want, and when I want because I have the financial means to do so is reassuring. I aspire to be at that level of comfort in my life. I try my best to set aside at least 20-40% of checks plus whatever Acorn takes from my account. I don’t have a set dollar figure for my savings this summer. My goal is to just set aside every time money touches my hands.
3. Build Credit. I’ll be honest I know very little about credit. What it is. How it works. All I can tell you is i’m going to build it. My score is 700 which I was told is good but could be better. When they said it could be better I saw it to be a challenge (life’s a competition you have to win it!). Therefore, I got a credit card and only charge small ticket purchases to show I can spend money responsibly, and as soon as the bill comes – I pay it. Once I learn more about credit and credit scores I’ll teach ya’ll what I know.
2. Learn more about myself. I’m always here for self-improvement, growth, and evolution. The best people I’ve met have mentioned that they are constantly taking the time to reflect on how to improve self without losing the integrity of self. They take into account the personal problems, personal failures, friendship/relationship failures or successes, opinions of their peers (this cannot be taken personally more for reviewing purposes), and overall quality of life reflection. So that’s led me to ask – am I where I want to be? do I want more for my life? am I surrounding myself with the right people? am I working hard enough? could I have handled that situation better? The list of question goes on and on, and until I am where I want and desire to be I won’t be satisfied. Even when I get where I want to be complacency will never be allowed. There’s always room for improvement and growth !
1. Live my best life. What I deem to be my best life may be different than the next and that’s ok, but I’m tired of sitting and watching everyone else live their life and I’m not. I see people taking trips and spending time with friends and family. So, this summer I vowed nothing was stopping me from doing just that – what I want! I’ll do what I want, in reason, I still live with my parents so I have to be respectful, but aside from that anything else is free game. A prime example – I attended the Yo Gotti birthday bash on June 28th and flew to my college, in Ohio, for a pool party the next day (yes, a pool party!!). It cost some money but money comes and goes. When I pass away I can’t take it with me so might as well spend it while I have time (all while saving at the same time!). I had a blast doing what I wanted for a weekend and that’s just one example and can’t wait to share more with ya’ll.
What’s some of your summer goals? Have you accomplished any? You struggling with any and need help? If you need help know this – we’re a little past the halfway point of 2018 but it’s most definitely the year to live. It’s the year to explore. It’s the year to be adventurous and outgoing. It’s the year to love those that love you and forget whoever doesn’t. It’s the year and summer to be unapologetically you. It’s a year to live lavishly !
Livin’ Lavish: a mindset before a bank account