I know we live in a world where knowing all the answers and instant gratification are the norm, and the second we don’t know what’s going on or why is when we seem to panic. It’s often when we have our mental breakdowns or moments of disarray because what was once predictable is no longer that.
You don’t know why that guy stopped talking to you. You don’t know why you can’t make ends meet or why you lost that job. You don’t understand why your mom is sick or why your uncle is lying in a hospital bed fighting for his life. You don’t understand why bad things happen to good people. Everything that’s suppose to be right keeps going left and it doesn’t make sense because it’s happening in more than one aspect of your life. Your whole world feels like a personal apocalypse.
I’m not sure who else has been in this same boat but I was once at a state of not knowing or understanding the who, what, or when’s of life. I felt lost, unwanted, unloved, and insignificant. If I couldn’t be who I wanted to be or who my friends and family wanted or needed me to be — I had nothing to offer to the world.
I felt as if I had hit an emotional, mental, and physical rock bottom. My back was against the wall and I had given all the fight I had to give. There was nothing left! Do you feel this way, too? Well, in the case that you do I must reassure you that it’s okay to wallow in your sorrows for a minute. It’s healthy to give yourself time to heal and pull yourself together. However, never allow yourself to stay in a negative space too long. You’ll catch yourself dwelling in an unhealthy atmosphere that can be detrimental to your overall well-being.
So when your world feels as if it’s coming to a catastrophic, unforeseen end or demise – reach out. Ask for help! You never know who’s truly there for you and who’s riding for you until you have nothing to give in return but your love.
I wholeheartedly believe everything happens for a reason. Every no prepares you to graciously and humbly accept a yes. Every guy or girl that you thought loved you but didn’t prepares you for the man or woman that’s meant for you. Every financial short coming teaches you to appreciate the smaller things in life. Every friend that turned against you and questioned your loyalty only reveals their true character. Every nothing turns out to be a better something. Life’s a teacher and we all must learn our lesson.
Nothing happens to us by accident. It was and is meant for us. You and I are more than strong enough to bear the challenges set on our life, and often we don’t have to bear those burdens alone because when life fights it doesn’t fight fair! Therefore, we have people divinely placed to be our burden buddies for the days we feel are too hard to face alone.
Unfortunately, living in a generation that has this ideological that everything has to go as planned, every single detail has to be looked over, or be an independent go-getter that never needs anyone has us messed up. It’s okay not to be okay. It’s okay to not have it all together. It’s okay to need someone. It’s okay for life to not go as planned because you never know what’s actually falling into place. We never know what blessings we’re about to walk into. We must keep our head up and keep fighting the good fight.
if you can look up you can get up
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